Are you the type of person who would rather spend hours and hours trying to figure everything out over asking someone else for help?
Have you invested in book after book, course after course and training after training trying to work out what you should be doing next instead of simply picking up a phone, dropping an email or whizzing over a DM to someone you know who is already successful?
Me too… or rather (thankfully) that used to be me!
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So one of the biggest problems I see in both my own experience and that of the wonderful women I work with is the inherent and automatic decision to try and do everything on our own.
For some reason, when we reach out to another it triggers a whole host of guilt, shame and fear so instead we choose to stay stuck.
For many of us, this has been ‘bred’ into us.
Back when we were kids in school we were in rows and often experienced a swift punishment from a teacher for engaging in any type of social activity while we should have been busily copying a load of nonsense from the blackboard.
Even the slightest giggle could result in a verbal tongue lashing and for some of you reading this you may have faced something sharper.
In fact, the cane was only banned in the UK in 1986 (I would have been 3 so thankfully missed out on that pleasurable activity…).
Yes, you’ve read that right.
Until 1986 it was OK to physically beat a child who decided to do what they had been genetically designed to do in order to survive… socialise.
The idea of separating kids has always been insane to me.
Back in the late 70’s we scientifically uncovered the way in which we learn to do things- by watching and copying others who we believe are similar to ourselves.
If anything is so far removed from ‘figuring it on your own’ this truly is!
The problem is that when we do things over and over, they become a habit.
Once a habit is formed it tends to become automatic and if by carrying out this habit, we avoid something harmful (the tongue lashing or the cane) then our brain decides this is the only way to survive.
Deviating from that point triggers our automatic fear response and causes a whole host of nasty feelings.
With this in mind is it any wonder that we don’t ask for help?
The real problem is that we can’t do things we’ve never been shown how.
OK, that’s not technically true.
We can learn to master things quickly that we’ve never been shown how.
When this comes to running a business this truly becomes a hindrance.
Don’t get me wrong, YouTube and Google are amazing at helping us lovely lady entrepreneurs figure things out.
But, in order for those two tools to come to our aid, we have to know the right question to ask.
The other day I was trying to work out how to show a physical representation of the audio waves on a graphic so that I could step up my social media prowess.
It took 4 hours to uncover the one correct word I needed to unlock all of the juicy YouTube and Google goodness.
In that time, I could have written a blog post, recorded the video, created the captions and uploaded it to the podcast.
Or in that same time I could have generated 30+ organic leads using Facebook groups and potentially a few sales depending on the ‘thing’ I was helping them with.
4 whole hours I’ll never get back…
The other problem is that once you ask the right question you usually uncover a heck of a lot more questions.
If I had known someone to ask about the whole ‘equaliser’ (that was the magic word by the way) thing I 100% would of.
I love finding out all the new things to do, testing them out, finding a quick and easy way and finding a free/low cost way if there is one, because this enables my clients to level up their business and compete with the industry leads without needing a bank full of cash and an army of employees.
So, in all honesty, it wasn’t wasted time for me because it’s part of what I do and love to do.
But I want you to think about all the time you’ve spent trying to figure things out when you could have just asked someone and had your problem solved in less than 5 minutes.
What would you have been able to achieve in your life/business if you were able to recover those hours?
How much closer would you be to reaching all of your goals, your dreams and your magical entrepreneurial lifestyle?
This is the power of having a group of people around you dedicated to helping you succeed.
In fact, the one thing that separates those who succeed quickly and those who make it but definitely take the long way around is the people they surround themselves with.
In March 2017 I understood that in order for me to piece together all the pieces of the business building jigsaw puzzle I needed to break out of the ‘doing it on my own habit and join a membership group.
I purposely looked for one which would help me master the basics of things I know nothing about and give me a safe space to ask questions, get help and feel a part of something.
The problem was that as it transpires this isn’t how most memberships work…
I ended up feeling more overwhelmed being fed irrelevant nonsense, pitched by every ‘guest-spert’ (guest expert) and was very often too afraid to ask any questions because I wasn’t part of the ‘cool gang’…
So, when I set out to create the Female Entrepreneur Road Map to Health Wealth & Happiness Series, I was 100% against creating a membership group of my own.
I didn’t want my clients to have to feel the same way I felt.
I didn’t know how to create that safe space, whether it was even possible … or how to circumvent the non-stop pitch fest of useless and irrelevant information.
Thankfully, my mentor is quite forceful and after 6 months of going back and forth I figured out a way to do it and in January 2019 the Female Entrepreneur Road Map to Health, Wealth & Happiness Members Club was born.
But, because back in January it was still just ‘theory’ it was closed to the public and only previous clients were allowed in.
They were the Guinea pigs.
All of whom were at the time, members of other paid groups (in fact that’s how I met a few of them…).
It took a few months to get the format right, to get the right balance of business stuff and emotional healing things and to make sure it was worthwhile being a member.
Thankfully, the Female Entrepreneur Road Map to Health, Wealth & Happiness Members Club experiment was a resounding success!
Right now, the doors are open and we’re welcoming a wave of new determined female entrepreneurs over the threshold.
But because it’s a very different concept and is truly dedicated to seeing you succeed theres a 10-day 100% free Scholarship.
It’s important to us that when you join you feel safe, supported and included.
If that’s not the case or you realise that it’s not quite what you’re looking for then you can leave and while we’ll be sad to see you go we will know that you have made the right decision for you.
As soon as you join you can instantly access all the previous Business Spotlight Sessions, the Windfall Wednesday Sessions, and the Underground Resource Library of additional training.
Plus, you'll also be eligible to have your specific questions answered as part of the next Weekly Windfall Wednesday Q&A!
You could literally find out all the answers to the questions you have right now (and didn't even know you had) without handing over any cash...
In truth, there’s genuinely so much that happens over there I can’t really go into it all in this post so use the button below to head over to Memebrs Club page to find out more:
I truly do hope to see you there and I am wishing you all the success you deserve on your magical entrepreneurial journey.
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Hey, I'm Katie Woodland I'm a Psychologist, Business Coach, Speaker & Best-selling Author who helps determined female entrepreneurs shed imposter syndrome, embrace their authenticity and confidently step into the limelight.
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